Thursday, July 12, 2018

Day Dreams Inspired by Jenna Kutcher

In this life it seems there are the dreamers who do and the dreamers who just sit back and one day wake up and think, “man, I should have chased down that dream...”. Some are college graduates, some are trade school workers, some still work in a job you could never imagine having, yet we all have that thing called a dream in common.

My dream is ever evolving and changing. What I wanted this time last year changed from I what I wanted this time two years ago and so on.  Some days I dream of never returning to my office job again and basking in the sunlight, other days my dream is to still be in my office just part time... Then of course there’s winning the lottery, marrying Chris Young, picking it all up and heading out of California... I could go on and on and on about the fantasies of my imagination, but none of those are truly my dreams. 

Over the past few months I have really started to think about my “why”. What drives me? What makes my heart leap with anticipation and butterflies? What would set my soul on fire?  Each time I come up empty handed. While it may be easy for so many people to find their own “why”, I am stagnant in even thinking of one. 

Jenna Kutcher has been an incredible voice of inspiration, reason, and most of all passion.  She was just a dreamer who ended up running those dreams down and turning her life into the exact thing she wanted.  Not only that, she has become a go to voice for boss babes everywhere with her podcast "Goal Digger".  If you haven't listened, you HAVE to, as soon as you are done reading this post of course.  Not only does Jenna inspire, she also is no BS and expects you to find your "secret sauce". 

With Jenna's inspiration I find myself now writing lists of goals, because those who write down goals are more apt to succeed.  I want to be a voice inspiration, but the "how" is what I am still struggling with.  Which is where y'all come in... 

What is your passion?
What drives you to be your best self?
How do you keep going?

Tuesday, July 3, 2018

Happy Independence Day

Before the hustle and bustle of July 4th occurs, I just wanted to jump on and wish all of you a very happy 4th of July.

I love my stars and stripes and I am proud to be American, even if I don't always agree with what is going on politically.  I know I have the power of my voice and I use that voice to vote.

I hope each and every one of you has a truly incredible holiday.  All I ask is that you take a moment to reflect on how far our country has come, and how much we can change it if we take a stand for this beautiful nation.

Happy Independence Day you beautiful country of mine.

Tuesday, June 26, 2018

Tinder Ever After

On Sunday I had the immense joy of marrying two of the sweetest people I have met.  This couple was everything laid back and mellow, yet ecstatic and joyful in getting married.  The only guests were the kiddos and the mountain sunset was completely picturesque with a slight breeze and plenty of sunshine.  Laughter, love and happy tears were the only emotions and let me tell you, it was more than enough.

The happy, giddy, bubbly love, laughter and happiness I get to witness is what keeps me saying "yes" to being an ordained minister, but more than that are the stories of how these adorably happy couples met and just knew they were meant forever.

I have married people who were co-workers, people who met through mutual friends, and yes, I have married people who have met from a simple Tinder swipe to the right.  Now I have two Tinder couples under my belt and it gives a renewed faith into what is deemed a "hook up " app for your phone.

While I absolutely abhor Tinder, it is nice to see people really are finding their forever mates on this app.  It says something about our society, that even though we have become self centered and busy, people are still searching for love.  Perhaps we have more in common with the men of the frontier writing classified ads for brides than we ever realized.

Thursday, June 21, 2018

Life Is Weird

I can't believe I let another month slip away without being around these parts.  In all fairness, life threw a few curve balls my way, but I am taking it in stride.  It seems like that always happens, right?  You get back into a routine then the universe laughs at you and throws another something on to your plate, whether or not you are prepared for it.

Memorial Day weekend my grandmother went into the hospital and sadly, she didn't make it home.  Quite honestly, I am doing ok.  We had a good moment together the Sunday before she passed and I was grateful she wasn't in pain in passing.  Her passing has thrown my family into a whirlwind of back and forth trips to Phoenix and let me say, that is the BIGGEST curve ball of them all.

While I love to travel, Phoenix isn't a special place for me.  It is where I had to say good bye to my grandpa and aunt, before my grandmother passed.  There is a stress and sadness that overcomes me in having to go back there.  On one hand, once the property is sold I will no longer have Phoenix as an Albatross around my neck.  On the other hand, so many weekends and vacations were spent trekking across the desert, because "that is what family does" where good and bad memories were made.

Life is weird and for lack of a better quote, I feel a little more in-tune with Ferris Bueller's "Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it" quote these days.

Tuesday, May 1, 2018

Cinco de Mayo Festivities

It is May and that means it is time to fiiiieeeesta!

Every year my family celebrates Cinco de Mayo, because we love Mexican food, we live in California, and any chance to party is a good one.  Typically we host a potluck-esque BYOB shindig with people who are closest to our hearts (friends, family, neighbors).

This year is no exception.  What is even better you may ask... It is on a Saturday this year.

We haven't party prepping for long, but I found some adorable fiesta decorations and accessories, plus a few tasty recipes I wanted to share with you all!

From table coverings to plates and napkins- go visit this link to the Creative Covering Serapa!

What are your fiesta plans?

Monday, April 30, 2018

April Recap

April has flown by, mostly because it was such a busy month for me.  Here is what I was up to:

Therapy-I finished up with my PTSD therapy sessions from Route 91.  I am not "cured", but I am more aware of healthy ways of coping and getting through traumas.  I cannot say enough good things about the therapist I found and I am so grateful for the tools, tips and tricks she gave me.

Concerts- I attended 5 concerts in April.  There was Michael Ray, front row Luke Bryan, Jason Aldean's record release party, Morgan Wallen and Hal Ketchum.  I had attended a few concerts in February, but was still skittish so I decided it was time to take them by storm.  The Michael Ray and Morgan Wallen shows were full of other Route 91-ers which made it easier and it is truly amazing how a group of people have come together to support one another and just hug it out when anxiety and fears are running high.  I took back my concert loving life and I am really proud of myself for that.

Dating-I said "bye bye" to Bumble because it just isn't the way I want to meet someone.  Yes I met some cool dudes, but I hate the feeling of being an "option".  While my friends and I had fun on it, we all agreed it is practically summer so it's lame to keep it around.  Plus it seems that guys are really only interested in one date and then disappearing completely.

Keto- I was so down for Keto and I will say that I had amazing results when I went full, hardcore, peeing on a strip Keto, but life happened and I wasn't prepared the way I should have been.  Since then I have been doing low-carb or what some consider "dirty"/ "lazy" Keto and I am still having good results, just not as fast.  Basically I am all about low carb 92% of the time.  Also I watched "The Magic Pill" on Netflix and I will tell you this, it has totally changed the way I view food, what we are suggested to eat and how to change it.  

Adulting- I went out and bought myself a new kitchen table and couch.  They get delivered next week and I have to say I am VERY excited about this stage of adulting.  While I spent more than what I had wanted to spend, I got items that I fell in love with and luckily for me, the couch was a clearance item so I saved some dough there.  

I hope April ends on a happy note for y'all and cheers to May.

Friday, April 20, 2018


On Tuesday, Yahoo shared an article with a brand new dating term -Serindipdating.  This was added to a long list of other dating words that describe the dating scene for us singles out in the world including, but not limited to:


There are a few others and this article here tells you all about them and their wonderful descriptions.

Back to "serindipdating"... Here is the short break down, you basically avoid making dates or commitment for fear of missing out on something better; you complain of no spark, while seeking a spark that may never come; you plan your white picket fence dreams on a significant other whose perfection isn't realistic; all the while, good guys are right in front of you and you "just don't feel it".

Won't lie, I am very guilty of this and so are many of the single people I know and have dated.  I have gone on dates that seem great, only to be "ghosted", "benched" and whatever other lame term there is to describe men who have absolutely no balls to tell you they are not interested and I have completely stopped talking to guys who come on too strong.  In my defense, most of them didn't take "no" too kindly so there was no other choice.

A few weeks ago I went on a date with E and we had, what I thought was, a good time.  Good enough for him to hand over an expensive bottle of wine at the end of the date... The date that ended so awkwardly it seemed surreal...   Have I heard from him?  Yes he texted me when he trekked back down to the city and made it safely home.  Other than that, no.  I have texted a couple of times and he has responded, but I don't have the energy to chase a dude around who is seemingly not interested, or rather looking for something different.

Did he come out and say that?  No, but in today's world with texting, Instagram, Snap, Bumble, and Tinder, among other things, his silence has said enough.  There hasn't been a suggestion for a second date other than my own suggestion, which he said "sure" to but I have yet to see that come to fruition.  I mean, he really could be busy, but after three weeks I am not buying that.  What will be will be.

As a society, dating apps and texting have ruined our chances at an actual connection, because we are constantly seeking something more meaningful, while only getting to know people superficially.  This is why I have a two date minimum.  I won't make a decision on a guy until the end of the second date, because first dates are awkward as hell, but "serindipdating" is preventing many second dates or even first dates from occurring.

The only way I see these dating trends ending is for people to go back to values and morals instilled in older generations where we respected ourselves enough to not want a bad reputation; where we respected other people's feelings enough to be honest; and where we made true human connections beyond looks, social status, and really looked for happiness and laughter.

We have all gotten so caught up in the next "match" and "like" that most of us have forgotten who are and until we come back to ourselves we will never be able to find a person we deem worthy enough to settle down with.